Talking to Ghosts

Every family historian has their brick walls.  We collect certificates, search newspapers, pore over DNA matches and build theories from fragments of evidence.  Yet there are some questions that only the people themselves could answer.

If I could speak to ghosts, there are three ancestors in particular I would love to spend an evening with.

Roseana Jones (1872- 1915)

My first question would be simple:  "Who is your father?"

My paternal great grandmother, Roseana Jones (nee Atkins) was born in Dunolly, Victoria in 1872 to unmarried Eliza Atkins.  No father was recorded on Roseana's birth certificate.  When she married, her father was recorded as Robert Atkins, a man I have never been able to identify.  When she died, her father was recorded as John Blain, her stepfather.

More than 150 years later, the mystery remains unsolved.

Family stories suggest her unknown father may have been Aboriginal, but there is no evidence to prove this.  DNA testing has not provided any clear answers either.

If I could sit down with Roseana, I would ask whether she knew who her father was, what her mother told her, and whether the stories are even close to the truth.  More than that, I would want to know about life and her childhood.

My grandmother denied that there was aboriginal heritage.  

Samuel Francis Drayton (c1814-1901)

Samuel's story spans continents and raises even more questions.

It is believed that my maternal 3X Great Grandfather was born in Philadelphia around 1814 but I cannot locate a birth record.  He worked as a steward on the whaling schooner, Sophia, out of Nantucket and travelled around the world for more than a decade, before disembarking in Australia in 1851.

But who was he before that?

DNA evidence has hinted at connections to the prominent Drayton family, as well as West African and African American ancestry from the southeastern United stqates.  This has led to speculation that Samuel may have been the son of an enslaved women and fathered by a member of the Drayton family.  Whether that theory is correct remains unknown.

If I could speak with Samuel, I would ask about his mother and his origins.  I would want to know how he learned to be a tailor, what life was like aboard a whaling vessel and why he chose to leave America and settle in Australia.

Most of all, I would like to know which parts of his story, we've guessed correctly.

It is believed that this is Richard Foy and Charlotte Drayton c1886  
We believe that Charlotte has 25% African American ancestry.

Richard Foy (1848 - 1898)

My maternal great great grandfather, Richard Foy, presents a different mystery.

He was likely born in Tuam, County Galway, in late 1848, while Ireland was experiencing the Great Famine.  At some point his family appears to have moved to Lancashire, England, before Richard emigrated to Australia in the 1870s.

Unfortunately, records of his arrival (in Brisbane) seem to have been lost, leaving gaps in his story.

But I would like to know more about the man himself.

After arriving in Australia, Richard formed a relationship with Charlotte, a woman whose husband had deserted her and left her to raise a young son alone.  Richard helped support both Charlotte and her child, Samuel.  Together they had three children, Agnes, May and John before eventually marrying in October 1893.   

Tragically, their young son died of "Asphyxia Congestion of the Lungs" in July 1893, which is about the same time that Charlotte was diagnosed with tuberculosis.  She died less than five month later, in December 1893, which was two months after their marriage.

Did Richard marry Charlotte knowing she was dying, wanting to provide security for her and their remaining children?  What was life like for them before they married?  

Then only three years later Richard married Charlotte's sister Virginia.  Was Virginia already helping care for the children who had lost their mother?  Was their marriage born from affection, necessity, family loyalty, or perhaps all three?

More tragedy followed.  Virginia gave birth to their son Percy on 19 September 1897.  Four days later, both Virginia and baby Percy were dead.  Virginia's death certificate records pneumonia and heart failure after a short illness, while Percy died from lack of sustenance.  By May 1898, Richard himself had also died from pneumonia and typhoid, while returning from Western Australia to Victoria.

If I could talk to Richard, I would ask about his family origins, Ireland, England and the voyage to Australia.  But I would also ask about Charlotte, Virginia and the children.  How did he find the strength to endure the loss of two children and two wives?   Why did he leave the children with their grandparents in Victoria while he went to Western Australia?

Questions without answers

Family history is full of gaps. Some questions refuse to be answered.

There are many ancestors I would love the opportunity to speak with, each carrying stories and answers that have been lost with time.  But if I could choose just three ghosts for a conversation, these are the three I would seek out.

I would ask Roseana Jones "Who was your father?"

I would ask Samuel Drayton about his mother, his ancestry, his years aboard the Sophia, and why he chose to begin a new life in Australia.

And I would ask Richard Foy about Ireland, the journey that brought him to Australia, and the tragedies and hardships he endured along the way.

Then I would simply listen.  Because sometimes the greatest family history mysteries are not about names and dates.  They are about people.

I would love to be able to speak with ghosts!

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Nhill Air Pageant, April 1933: The Day Gran Took Flight

 Among the photographs in my grandmother's albums are several taken at the Nhill Air Pageant in April 1933.  They are fascinating images of a time when aviation was still in its infancy and the sight of an aeroplane drew an entire community together.

One photograph has always been my favourite.

In it, my grandmother, Eva Jean Pilgrim, is wearing a leather pilot's helmet and flying goggles.  Standing beside an aircraft, sh is grinning while being watched by her mother and siblings.  it is a simple family photograph, but every time I look at it, I see see something different.

Eva Pilgrim about to board her first flight, with family watching on

My grandmother described herself as a shy country girl.  Adventure was not a word I would have automatically associated with her.  Yet in this photograph she appears completely at ease, embracing an opportunity that must have seemed extraordinary in 1933.  Flying was still a novelty for most Australians.  Commercial aviation was in its infancy, and for many people a flight in an aeroplance was a one in a lifetime experience.

Looking at that photo, it is easy to imagine the excitement of the day.  Families brought a picnic and gathered around the aircraft, children wanted to get a closer look, the sound of the engines roaring and the distinctive leather helmets and goggles.  For a young country girl, the chance to climb aboard and see the world from above must have felt magical.

The image is made even more meaningful because that first flight was only the beginning.  Over the years, my grandmother would fly many more times, but this photograph preserves the moment when it all started.  It captures the anticipation of a new experience.

The album also contains photographs of several of the aircraft that attended the pageant.  Among them is one of the most famous aeroplanes in Australian History, the Southern Cross, flown by Sir Charles Kingsford Smith.  

The Southern Cross was the first plane to fly from USA to Australia in 1928

What I enjoy most about these photos is how they connect national history to family history.  Aviation enthusiasts wouls see historic aircraft and the excitement of early flight.  Although I see those things too, I also see my grandmother, standing on the edge of a new adventure with a smile on her face.

Nearly a century later, that smile still tells a story.

It reminds me that courage does not always look dramatic.  Sometimes, it is simply a shy country girl putting on a leather flying helmet, climbing into an aeroplane for the first time, and saying yes to the first of many adventures.

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Coming Home Changed: The Invisible Victims of War

"My word, our boys are brave lads, frightened of nothing. I have seen nearly every different type of soldier in the world, but give me the old Australians, and I am satisfied." –  My Great Uncle, Robert Jones, wrote these words to his father in 1916.

HMAT RMS Osterley embarked Melbourne 29th September 1915 for Egypt then France 

Robert "Bob" Jones

The young men who departed Australia for war were likely full of nervous excitement.  Little did they know that over 30% of those onboard the RMS Osterley would never return home, and a further 35% would be sent back early with severe injuries.  Their journey was one of transformation;  one that would profoundly impact them and their families forever.

My grand uncle, Robert John "Bob" Jones, was one of 153 young men of the 24th Battalion, 5th Reinforcement who left Australia aboard the RMS Osterley on 29 September 1915.  He had just turned  eighteen earlier that month and was likely still grieving his mother, who had passed away only five months prior.

Bob was born on 2 September 1897 in the small mining community of Creswick, Victoria, the eldest of three children to Robert William Jones and Roseana Jones (née Atkins).  Bob worked as a miner (like his father) and lied about his age to enlist, though he was officially eighteen when he embarked.

For his first six months, Bob was stationed in various parts of Egypt.  His war records show a first stint in hospital due to "minor nose trouble" at Minya in March 1916.

A Rebel at Heart

Bob's rebellious streak was evident even before his wartime service. In 1914, as a cadet, he faced charges at the Daylesford Police Court for failing to attend compulsory drills and for breaching discipline; specifically, talking on parade several times. For these infractions, he was fined 10 shillings and confined in Queenscliff Fortress for seven days.

Though he showed a tendency to go "AWL" (absent without leave) during the war, Bob ultimately proved steadfast when it counted most.

Pozieres: A Battlefield of Survival

On 5 August 1916, Bob endured severe gunshot wounds to his left arm during extreme battle conditions at Pozieres, France. Major McSharry described this day as "the heaviest barrage the battalion ever saw." Bob was fortunate to survive the carnage, which left soldiers dead on their stretchers, alongside the stretcher-bearers.

Bob later wrote to his father: "Anyone who had come out of the previous months' heavy fighting could shake hands with himself......I never expected to emerge alive"

Despite his injuries, Bob was back in action within 20 days. By the end of 1916, of the men from Bob's ship, 20 were dead and 13 had been sent home injured.

A Heroic but Traumatised Soldier

On 30 October 1917 in France, Bob was "blown up" while manning a machine gun, sustaining shell wounds to his head and right ankle but "carried on for 5 hours till relieved" and then collapsed.  His records paint a harrowing picture of his recovery as he was unconscious for six days, followed by memory loss and a gradual loss of power in his left arm.

After months in hospitals across France and England, Bob returned to Australia on 10 April 1918 aboard the hospital ship Borda.  He was declared medically unfit on 21 November 1918, just days after the armistice.  Though he was awarded the 1914/1915 Star, the British War Medal, and the Victory Medal, his personal battles were far from over.

The Aftermath of War

Robert Jones 1966

Bob rarely spoke of the war, once reprimanding a family member with the remark: "You have no idea what we did or saw. It is better left unspoken."

His trauma remained evident throughout his life, and his war wounds extended beyond the physical. Bob named his children Lorraine (after the Battle of Lorraine), Verdon (after the infamous Battle of Verdun), and Norma (Normandy), a reflection of the battlefields that had shaped his very existence.

Our family knows little of Bob beyond official records.  My grandmother, his sister, spoke of him only briefly, mentioning the gas burns he suffered (The Somme), the metal plate in his head, and how the war irrevocably changed him.  Family stories describe him as a nomadic figure who frequented hotels, yet he was fondly remembered by my uncle as a "great old fellow" who enjoyed fishing and ferreting.

Bob spent his final years at his daughter's home in Newborough, Victoria, passing away from lung cancer and bronchopneumonia on 11 September 1967, at the age of 70.  His ashes are interred at Springvale cemetery.

Originally written for Remembrance Day 2013, this post has been rewritten and republished on ANZAC Day 2025 as we reflect on the sacrifices of those who served; not only those who fell, but also the ones who returned forever changed.

LEST WE FORGET.

Hats in Time

Believed to be the wedding of Edith Bound and Eduard Geyer in 1886

 

In days of old, a hat did hold

A charm and grace, a tale untold.

Upon the head, it sat with pride,

A symbol of style, a dashing stride.

Eva Pilgrim (nee Blythman)

A gentleman's hat, so debonair,

Topped with feathers or ribbon fair.

A touch of class, a dash of flair,

A hat that spoke of savoir faire.

Bessie and Abel Bound with Mrs Excell and Ruby Bound
Estimated to be 1890

For ladies fair, a hat adorned,

With flowers, ribbons and lace adorned.

A fashion statement, a work of art,

A hat to captivate every heart.

Unknown Lady, Great Aunty Eve Walker and Great Aunty Madeline Walker

In times gone past, a hat was worn,

To shield from sun or bracing morn.

A protective shield, a shield of shade,

A hat to don on every escapade.

Great Grandparents Mary and Ambrose Walker with horses Buzz & Silver
We believe the child is Aunty Phyllis Walker - about 1930

Oh, hats of old, we long to see,

The elegance and grace you used to be.

Though fashion changes, trends may sway,

Your timeless charm will never fade away.

I love the way that my grandfather, Gordon Walker, is looking at my nanna, Rita
At the wedding of my Aunty & Uncle in 1965

So let us raise our hats up high,

To bygone days and days gone by.

For in those hats, a story told, 

Of fashion style, and stories old.

Caroline "Carrie" Warner

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Vroom Vroom

We take our cars for granted.  Airconditioning, reversing camera's and GPS are relatively standard to us.  Our ancestors would never have dreamed of these features 100 years ago!

1925
My Grandmother, Rita Walker (nee Jones) 
I wonder if she hated the photo so tried to destroy it?

1928
Almond Dale, Winiam
James, Mabel, Lorna and Hazel Pilgrim (rear)
"The Chev was the third car, but first new car" of my Great Grandparents

1929
My Great Great Grandmother, Edith Geyer (nee Bound). 
She died as a result of injuries sustained in a car accident in 1937.

March 1929
Back to Nhill
Victoria Street, Nhill

August 1932
My Grandfather, Allan Scott

1933
My Grandmother, Eva Scott (nee Pilgrim), May Johnston,
Sadie Johnston, Mrs. Johnston (back)

Bob Pilgrim's car
Nhill

My Grandfather, Gordon Walker's Austin
Tarraville

My favourite photo has been left to last.  My mother is the youngest child. 

1949
Scott Family
Eva, Joy (front), Jean, Don, Rob, Allan

I wonder what cars shall look like in another 50 or 100 years?  Driverless?  Flying? Or something unimagined?

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